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October 7, 2009:

Today, this site is 1 year old.
Today, Matthew Shepard was attacked 11 years ago.

In 11 years, this world has progressed in so many positive ways. Sadly, it doesn't seem as if we have advanced much in our attitude towards bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgendered people. The fact that anyone can be beaten or murdered for a part of them that they can't change is so foreign to me.

Last year alone, I have documented 143 incidents (at this time) worldwide. 41 people died as a result of those incidents. More than 100 other people were physically attacked in some way. 3 people committed suicide.

How do we get the message through to the people who are able to commit these crimes? One day, there might be something about them that someone doesn't like and the same thing could potentially happen to them.

How do we let these people know that it takes so much more energy to be filled with such hate than it does to be more positive? How do we help these people use their lives for more productive things and get rid of the apparent boredom that helps cause these crimes? How do we let them know that it's okay for people to have differences?

Maybe every one of us could be part of the solution... Maybe there's something that every one of us could do to help one person, allow them to help someone else, and create a ripple effect... Maybe I'm being too hopeful... I don't think so. I do believe that we can all have a positive effect on someone else who we come in contact with. It's not out of the realm of possibility that we can be positive influences on people around us.

 

 
   
Willkommen... Bienvenue... Welcome... Vítejte... Benvenuto... Bienvenido...
to a place I call
"NEVER FORGET THEM".

This is a place where I would like to ensure that all victims of anti-gay hate crimes and hate incidents are known, and remembered.

John Wear... Paul Broussard... Allen Schindler... Rebecca Dowski... Richard Whitesell...
Do those names mean anything to you?
Gary Rocus... Judith Hart Fournier... Steven Wilson... John Cavness... Alain Brosseau...
What about those?
They are just 10 of the many people who were victims of hate crimes based on actual, or perceived, sexual orientation.

Most, if not all, of the people whose names you will find on this site had hate-filled words thrown their way.
Others may have been on the receiving end of a punch or two.
Some were stabbed, hit with baseball bats or chains, kicked or shot.
Some perpetrators got more creative than that when acting out on their anger and hatred.
A good number of the victims died.
Some victims survived but were paralyzed, or needed extensive surgeries.
One thing that all of these incidents have in common is the seemingly endless amount of anger and hatred that their attacker(s) had inside of them.

This website is the end result of a totally different project that started a while back. It's finally at a point where it can be put out in cyberspace.
I wanted to have this completed and 100% ready to mark the 10th anniversary of Matthew Shepard's attack.
I don't quite have that "final" version done. Sadly, there have always been people who dislike, despise, loathe or outright hate gays, lesbians,
bisexuals or transgendered people enough to do harm to us, which has kept me very busy adding names to this list. And they keep showing up,
as you will see on the next page. So keep in mind that old cases which haven't been entered in yet will be added, and new incidents will be added
to this site after they've happened. I would like to promise that no new incidents will ever happen, but sadly, that is a promise I couldn't keep.

 
 


This website will include the following types of incidents (possibly others), all of which I deem to be hate incidents:
  • Verbal and/or physical attacks against gay men, lesbians, bisexuals and/or transgendered people
  • Verbal and/or physical attacks against straight people who their attackers believed to be gay or lesbian
  • Verbal and/or physical attacks against straight people because of their glbt-friendly attitude
  • Suicides by gay men, lesbians, bisexuals or a transgendered person if their suicide was provoked by external homophobic factors
  • Vandalism against any property of a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered person, including spray painting grafitti
  • Vandalism against any property of a straight person who the perpetrators believed to be gay, including spray painting grafitti
  • Vandalism against any gay-owned or gay-friendly business establishment, including spray painting grafitti
  • Any incident causing damage, destruction or bodily harm at a gay-owned or gay-friendly business establishment
  • Any incident of harassment, property damage or bodily harm at a group event such as a Pride Festival
  • Spoken, written or printed words that advocate any type of harm, injury or death to gay men, lesbians, bisexuals or transgendered people
  • Verbal comments made in any context that use gay "slurs" freely as some (distorted) form of humor
  • Any action taken against a person (such as termination from a job) because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity
 
 

The people who were brutally killed in ways that most human beings couldn't dream of doing to another person
Those who survived their attacks and grew stronger from it
Those who survived their attacks physically but not mentally
The indirect victims such as family, friends and co-workers of victims
    and most definitely...
Those people who did not report a crime against them and had to suffer alone, in silence.

None of these people should ever be forgotten.
We all should remember what some people walking this Earth are capable of doing.

 
 
I would also like to give a HUGE shout-out to some of the important people in my life...
Lil Sharon, Lil Mark, Lil Dave, Lil Victor, Lil Suzi, Lil Jim, Lil Trudy, Lil Sandy, Lil Mitch,
Lil Scott, Lil Chris, Lil Mikie, Lil Steven, Lil Russ, Lil Rob and Lil William.

who, during the creation of this site, loaned me their eyes and gave me their suggestions.
With all the long hours of work (i.e. tunnel vision) on this, their ideas helped me tremendously.
Their time, and their suggestions, were more helpful than they will know.